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The First On-Stream Bob’r: Jennifer Mosely

Would this have happened today, in the present climate of political correctness, the on-going debate on consent, third or fourth wave feminism, et cetera, Terry Hall, I, and our cabal of cohorts would all have been imprisoned for turning out the first on-stream bob’r. Truth be told: consent to exploit was never given; or, was…

The Female Orgasm
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The Female Orgasm

The female orgasm feels amazing. We all know that. Orgasms are the pinnacle of sensation if you’re lucky enough to have one. That much we also know. But, why do orgasms feel so good? What is it about them that makes our whole body feel full of bliss and pleasure? It seems pretty simple to…

Some Swinging Guidelines
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Some Swinging Guidelines

Although the majority of swinging will end up involving lovemaking and getting frisky with each other’s partners, some swinging guidelines suggest that it isn’t all about fresh flesh. Swinging is about building up the atmosphere of warmth and belonging. Whether you are at a party with another couple or with another person for a threesome,…

Signs, Signifiers, and the Spectacle
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Signs, Signifiers, and the Spectacle

The French school of mid twentieth-century philosophy drew particular attention to signs, signifiers, and the spectacle. Begun a few years after the widespread acceptance of Freudian theory the writings of Jacques Lacan (Écrits), philosophy and psychology melded in some very enlightening ways. Of course this movement was precipitated by the invention of the television which…

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Practicing Ethical Non-Monogamy (2)

Ethical non-monogamy vs. Polyamory. Polyamory is one form of practicing ethical non-monogamy, which is an umbrella term that encompasses many other types of relationships. Swinging, casual sex, open relationships, and polyamory are all forms of ethical non-monogamy, and there are many others. Polyamory refers to having multiple romantic partners at once, which not all ethically…

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Practicing Ethical Non-Monogamy (1)

There are two ways of practicing non-monogamy: the nonconsensual kind, which is also known as cheating, and the consensual kind, which is known as consensual or ethical non-monogamy. This latter kind has risen in popularity dramatically in recent years. One 2017 study found 1 in 5 people has been in some form of ethically non-monogamous relationship before. Here’s what this type…

Parsing “Passes” and “Pings”
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Parsing “Passes” and “Pings”

In order to survive and thrive normally, humans need nourishment (food and drink), sleep, sexual release, and social interaction. Take away a certain measure of any one of these (Humans can and do manage without shelter.) and the result is a damaged or flawed human. Sexual behavior is revealed by parsing passes and pings. No…

Pandemic Sex Toys
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Pandemic Sex Toys

You’d be forgiven for thinking everyone was using pandemic sex toys to masturbate more during the pandemic. Adult content subscription service OnlyFans went mainstream, and celebrities such as Gwyneth Paltrow, Dakota Johnson, Lily Allen and Cara Delevingne made stigma-breaking moves when they released their own sex toys (Goop) or partnered with existing companies (Maude, Womanizer…

Non-Monogamy: Multiple Sexual Partners
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Non-Monogamy: Multiple Sexual Partners

The concept of having multiple sexual partners is nothing new to humanity—just ask the Ancient Greeks who enjoyed notoriously glorious sex lives and “had a desire for anyone and anything.” But when it comes to modern romance, navigating life beyond monogamy can be tricky. This is partly because monogamy in of itself is pretty straightforward:…

Lessons from Open Relationship
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Lessons from Open Relationship

Whenever I hear someone openly admit they are in an open relationship or marriage, they are met with accusations of cheating or not being in a “real” relationship. Their relationships are not taken seriously, and sometimes even laughed or scoffed at.   But actually, open and poly relationships can be some of the healthiest and most…

Having Casual Anonymous Sex
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Having Casual Anonymous Sex

Those who prefer casual anonymous sex to repeated-partner play have likely, at some point in their sexual journey, contended with the wrath of slut-shaming culture. But for some, the preference for emotion-free sex is more than a celebration of sexuality and bodily autonomy; it’s a sexual orientation. Behold: fraysexuality. “’Fraysexual’ is a term that describes…

Differences in Sexual Desire
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Differences in Sexual Desire

Differences in sexual desire can be highly problematic. Romantic relationships are distinguished from all others in that they are fundamentally sexual in nature. Furthermore, the vast majority of people expect their intimate relationship to be sexually exclusive. And yet, people differ widely in terms of how much sex they want, so it’s not surprising that…

Dating Apps Disappoint
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Dating Apps Disappoint

Do dating apps disappoint? When Treena Orchard, author and associate professor at Western University in London, Ontario started using online dating apps in her 40s, she noticed something very peculiar. Her experiences – the endless back and forth messaging, persistent sexual harassment, pushy requests for nudes and routine ghosting – were all eerily similar to…

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Black Widow: Requiem for Carol

Meet Carol.  I mean Carmel.  Carmel/Carol is a Black Widow.  By that, I mean an out-of-control sociopath grifter.  A predator. At Bob’s firm Carol stood out, head and shoulders, as the best candidate. He recounts that she demonstrated superior language and communications skills. He remembers that she looked polished and attractive. Apparently the decision arrived…