Women Sharing Masturbation Methods**
Some masturbation tools
Instruction | News | Theory
What’s a Pillow Princess?
When you hear “pillow princess” you might be thinking that this girl is living a life of luxury. And you’re right. If you’re a pillow princess, it’s a cushy ride. However, it’s also likely that no one wants to have sex with you. So what, exactly, is a pillow princess? If you think a pillow…
Vaxxed and Waxed
Although vaxxed and waxed it has been a long lockdown on love for Emma Sykora. But as temperatures climb and more Canadians roll up their sleeves for the first dose of the COVID-19 vaccine, Sykora is starting to think she has a shot at something special this summer. The 33-year-old in Toronto became single near…
The Most Powerful Sex Organ
Here’s why the brain is the most powerful sex organ. Chemicals and your brain One of the last things you’re thinking about during sex is probably chemicals and your brain—but they’re more involved than you think. Studies and MRIs suggest there are many remote areas of the brain that are active before, during, and after…
The First On-Stream Bob’r: Jennifer Mosely
Would this have happened today, in the present climate of political correctness, the on-going debate on consent, third or fourth wave feminism, et cetera, Terry Hall, I, and our cabal of cohorts would all have been imprisoned for turning out the first on-stream bob’r. Truth be told: consent to exploit was never given; or, was…
History | Instruction | Theory
The Female Orgasm
The female orgasm feels amazing. We all know that. Orgasms are the pinnacle of sensation if you’re lucky enough to have one. That much we also know. But, why do orgasms feel so good? What is it about them that makes our whole body feel full of bliss and pleasure? It seems pretty simple to…
The Deepest Form of Love
Many women find sex to be the deepest form of love and connection, and many women are very sexually oriented. While his orgasm may be quicker, hers is often more powerful and her incredible capacity for pleasure could include multiple orgasms. But the ways that women experience and express their sexuality are often very different…
Some Swinging Guidelines
Although the majority of swinging will end up involving lovemaking and getting frisky with each other’s partners, some swinging guidelines suggest that it isn’t all about fresh flesh. Swinging is about building up the atmosphere of warmth and belonging. Whether you are at a party with another couple or with another person for a threesome,…
History | Instruction | Theory
Signs, Signifiers, and the Spectacle
The French school of mid twentieth-century philosophy drew particular attention to signs, signifiers, and the spectacle. Begun a few years after the widespread acceptance of Freudian theory the writings of Jacques Lacan (Écrits), philosophy and psychology melded in some very enlightening ways. Of course this movement was precipitated by the invention of the television which…
Signs of the Coming Split
In the year before I split up with my ex-partner, several things changed. I started to spend more time with new friends, stay out later on weekends and began treating myself to fancy pedicures on a bi-weekly basis. Most importantly, I stopped writing about my then-partner. Our relationship was already on the rocks and I…
Should I Try Polyamory?
I had been wandering the liquor store for some minutes when the clerk approached and asked if I needed help. I considered blurting out loudly, “Should I try polyamory?”. “Hello,” I would say. “I’m wine shopping for dinner with my boyfriend and his two partners, whom I’ll be meeting for the first time. You wouldn’t…
Sex With a Narcissist
Sex with a narcissist enlightened me. It’s far too easy to throw around labels these days for any little problem. For instance, we are quick to label men as narcissists when they show a little selfishness. The problem? Narcissism isn’t something to joke about. It’s not a word to call someone just because they don’t…
Sex and Poetry as Synonyms
Since antiquity sex and sexuality have enjoyed a symbiotic relationship with poetry leading to sex and poetry as synonyms. Poetry falls into genres and categories defined by a range of schools, styles and forms. Looking into one of the more modern schools, the L-A-N-G-U-A-G-E school, a school which came to prominence at the close of…
Revenge Follows Restraint
Precisely at five minutes after seven each and every Friday evening, Mrs. Janet Wright was tied naked to a polished glass kitchen chair; this weekly ritual was adroitly, dutifully and perfectly performed by her husband Duncan. On Sunday morning Duncan freed her to fix breakfast. His mania, this ritualistic binding of his wife, was the…
Rape & Predators Can Be Subtle
Everyone thinks having low self-esteem is a bad thing but I actually think it can be really helpful, say in the case of warding off child predators. Even they couldn’t believe how low my self-esteem was. They’re like “Girl, you’re beautiful” and I’m like “Now I know for sure you’re a fucking liar cuz even…
Practicing Ethical Non-Monogamy (2)
Ethical non-monogamy vs. Polyamory. Polyamory is one form of practicing ethical non-monogamy, which is an umbrella term that encompasses many other types of relationships. Swinging, casual sex, open relationships, and polyamory are all forms of ethical non-monogamy, and there are many others. Polyamory refers to having multiple romantic partners at once, which not all ethically…
Practicing Ethical Non-Monogamy (1)
There are two ways of practicing non-monogamy: the nonconsensual kind, which is also known as cheating, and the consensual kind, which is known as consensual or ethical non-monogamy. This latter kind has risen in popularity dramatically in recent years. One 2017 study found 1 in 5 people has been in some form of ethically non-monogamous relationship before. Here’s what this type…
Parsing “Passes” and “Pings”
In order to survive and thrive normally, humans need nourishment (food and drink), sleep, sexual release, and social interaction. Take away a certain measure of any one of these (Humans can and do manage without shelter.) and the result is a damaged or flawed human. Sexual behavior is revealed by parsing passes and pings. No…
From Public Media | Instruction | News | Toys
Pandemic Sex Toys
You’d be forgiven for thinking everyone was using pandemic sex toys to masturbate more during the pandemic. Adult content subscription service OnlyFans went mainstream, and celebrities such as Gwyneth Paltrow, Dakota Johnson, Lily Allen and Cara Delevingne made stigma-breaking moves when they released their own sex toys (Goop) or partnered with existing companies (Maude, Womanizer…
Open Relationship Newbies
While it’s very exciting that you and your significant other have agreed that you want to start as open relationship newbies, it can also be pretty intimidating, and the stakes are high. That’s why we spoke to some experts about how to best go about opening your relationship up for the first time. For starters,…
Non-Monogamy: Multiple Sexual Partners
The concept of having multiple sexual partners is nothing new to humanity—just ask the Ancient Greeks who enjoyed notoriously glorious sex lives and “had a desire for anyone and anything.” But when it comes to modern romance, navigating life beyond monogamy can be tricky. This is partly because monogamy in of itself is pretty straightforward:…
Men Make Mistakes
1. Men make mistakes by not being honest about needs: “Be honest with yourself as to what you like and need, because men make mistakes. Was with a guy who NEEDED to finish by hand, but desperately didn’t want it to be that way. He would just keep going until it started to hurt me,…
Lessons from Open Relationship
Whenever I hear someone openly admit they are in an open relationship or marriage, they are met with accusations of cheating or not being in a “real” relationship. Their relationships are not taken seriously, and sometimes even laughed or scoffed at. But actually, open and poly relationships can be some of the healthiest and most…
Having Casual Anonymous Sex
Those who prefer casual anonymous sex to repeated-partner play have likely, at some point in their sexual journey, contended with the wrath of slut-shaming culture. But for some, the preference for emotion-free sex is more than a celebration of sexuality and bodily autonomy; it’s a sexual orientation. Behold: fraysexuality. “’Fraysexual’ is a term that describes…
History | Instruction | Theory
Gestalt Reveals the Mind
Dictionary Definition of gestalt: an organized whole that is perceived as more than the sum of its parts. Gestalt reveals the mind. Though the dictionary definition may confuse about how this works with sexual tension this approach will become crystal clear if we look to some examples. Two people are on a first date, say,…
Food Can Improve Sex
Sex toys and food can improve sex. For some it’s Marvin Gaye or an episode of Outlander… what gets you going in the bedroom is highly individualized. For me it’s simply a well-functioning penis. But did you know that there are certain foods that may boost your sex life? It’s true—what you eat for dinner…
Female Orgasm Denial
Everyone knows how important orgasms are for both men and women. When having sex with someone, you want them to orgasm. You want them to have the best sexual experience with you – it’s normal. But sometimes, orgasms aren’t that easy for women to achieve. A good way to encourage the big O to come…
Ethical Non-Monogamy (3)
Several ethical non-monogamy perspectives. Ian Jenkins, 45, faced death threats after coming out as gay while at university in Virginia. At that time, he could hardly foresee a day when he could live as an openly gay man with one partner, let alone two. But today, he shares a home in San Diego with his…
Differences in Sexual Desire
Differences in sexual desire can be highly problematic. Romantic relationships are distinguished from all others in that they are fundamentally sexual in nature. Furthermore, the vast majority of people expect their intimate relationship to be sexually exclusive. And yet, people differ widely in terms of how much sex they want, so it’s not surprising that…
Dating Apps Disappoint
Do dating apps disappoint? When Treena Orchard, author and associate professor at Western University in London, Ontario started using online dating apps in her 40s, she noticed something very peculiar. Her experiences – the endless back and forth messaging, persistent sexual harassment, pushy requests for nudes and routine ghosting – were all eerily similar to…
Confession of an Autosexual
Many years ago, I dated a boy whose bed sat parallel to a mirrored wardrobe and from that incident comes this confession of an autosexual. Once, when we were having sex, I caught my attention shifting from his face to my reflection. “You like watching?” he asked. I didn’t know what to say. He’d caught…
Confessing Why I Cheated
Confessing why I cheated. First things first: I’m an unscrupulous asshole. I went against my marriage vows. Repeatedly. The scarlet letter burned in my soul reminds me that I’m a s**tty person who did something I deem unforgivable. I cheated. I have no excuse for my behaviour. As an adult, we make choices. No one…
Black Widow: Theory
Never trust Black Widow women. Chapter fifty-seven of my naughty memoir, Lessons Inside the Lifestyle, tells the story of just one Black Widow woman. The two posts prior to this detail other Black Widow stories, both considerably toned down from the real terror a Black Widow can represent, invoke, and unleash. Some of the questions…
Black Widow: Requiem for Lesli
A Black Widow (BW) is a vicious malicious woman, a special type of grifter. She is a grifter who readily uses her genitalia to execute her agenda (her “vagenda”), always about conning people. That is one reason why the common street prostitute uses the term “trick” to usually discuss or describe her customer. The sex…
Black Widow: Requiem for Carol
Meet Carol. I mean Carmel. Carmel/Carol is a Black Widow. By that, I mean an out-of-control sociopath grifter. A predator. At Bob’s firm Carol stood out, head and shoulders, as the best candidate. He recounts that she demonstrated superior language and communications skills. He remembers that she looked polished and attractive. Apparently the decision arrived…
History | Instruction | Theory
Black Widow: Reflections
Let me be brutal and say so directly. Women, especially Black Widows, those who follow Tolstoy’s credo “Vengeance is mine”, are smarter than men. They have always been smarter than men. The simple law of nature invoked to arrive at this conclusion is : balance. Nature can be accused of many crimes, many wonders, and…
Allosexual versus Asexual
Allosexual versus Asexual can be very confusing. You’ve had a lot of time to reflect on you, yourself, and you over the past year or so — and some of that introspection may have included thinking about your sexuality. Maybe you want to text your latest Bumble match 24/7, but don’t feel the same urgency…
A Kinky Polyamorous Throuple
One week in the life of this kinky polyamorous throuple. Danny is a student and stay-at-home parent to a toddler they share with their husband. Danny’s trans-masculine, non-binary and has been married since 2018, with the couple forming a non-sexual closed triad with a third person they’ve been dating for close to three years. That…
