Blog posts dealing with theory
On average, women are less interested in sex than men. This is a consistent finding in psychology. Women express lower sexual desire, want fewer lifetime sex partners, and are less open to casual sex compared to men. The reason for this gender difference in sexuality constitutes one of the great debates in psychology. Nature Versus…
When you hear “pillow princess” you might be thinking that this girl is living a life of luxury. And you’re right. If you’re a pillow princess, it’s a cushy ride. However, it’s also likely that no one wants to have sex with you. So what, exactly, is a pillow princess? If you think a pillow…
Waiting for sex is a big deal for some, but not so much so for others. And you are 100% entitled to your opinions and feelings. As long as you’re being safe, you do you. Many people wonder how long you should be waiting for sex and it’s a long-debated subject. The truth? It’s a…
My virgin confession hurts. I’m A 32-Year-Old Female Virgin (but not by choice). How I ended up in this condition – alone. Missing out. A 32-year-old virgin. By accident. No grand pacts with deities were made. No overly sentimental illusions of saving myself for that one special person who would sweep me off my feet…
People stay in an unhappy marriage for a lot of reasons. You may be in one yourself. But when an unhappy marriage leads to cheating and infidelity, it’s time to lift the veil of denial and take a good hard look at what’s going on. It’s important to understand why people cheat before learning how…
Five types of romantic relationships serve to categorize most romantic unions. When you look back at your relationship history, you may have what feels like a wide range of different experiences. Some romances are short. Some are boring. Some are defined by strong attraction and big conflicts. Some are warm and stable. All of these…
You might have heard the saying “happy wife, happy life,” but it’s actually far more than that. For sure, if the lady in your life is happy, everything is easier. But, you need to make sure that your needs are also being met. Relationships are two-way deals and without both partners being happy with what’s…
Here’s why the brain is the most powerful sex organ. Chemicals and your brain One of the last things you’re thinking about during sex is probably chemicals and your brain—but they’re more involved than you think. Studies and MRIs suggest there are many remote areas of the brain that are active before, during, and after…
Having an affair with a married man is full of highs and lows, agony and ecstasy, and some days you may wonder if it’s all worth it. If you are reading this article because a married man ghosted you, it can feel devastating. And now here you are, in the deepest of lows, wondering what…
The female orgasm feels amazing. We all know that. Orgasms are the pinnacle of sensation if you’re lucky enough to have one. That much we also know. But, why do orgasms feel so good? What is it about them that makes our whole body feel full of bliss and pleasure? It seems pretty simple to…
Many women find sex to be the deepest form of love and connection, and many women are very sexually oriented. While his orgasm may be quicker, hers is often more powerful and her incredible capacity for pleasure could include multiple orgasms. But the ways that women experience and express their sexuality are often very different…
Sex is an ever-changing subject and the cuckold fantasy is big right now. It seems that every month there’s a new term we have to learn the meaning of! This can only be a good thing, because it means we’re all becoming more open and adventurous when it comes to exploring our kinks and fantasies….
“What’s the difference between a bar and the clitoris? Most men have no trouble finding a bar.” In the world of humour, the clitoris remains a mystery: supposedly small, and so inevitably difficult to locate. “Which dinosaur will never be discovered? The Clitaurus.” It sometimes seems medical science has been far more interested in the…
Maybe you’re a spitter who wants to transition to the swallowing club, or maybe you just want to learn how to do it right, well, this is how to swallow cum without gagging or feeling like throwing up. My very first experience with swallowing cum I don’t want to scare you, but I just want…
Perhaps your sex life is lacking spontaneous sex. Sex is great, we can all agree with that. And if you don’t, then you’re not having the right kind of sex. While planning your sex life may be the most realistic option for many of you out there, it’s even better when it’s spontaneous sex. When…
Although the majority of swinging will end up involving lovemaking and getting frisky with each other’s partners, some swinging guidelines suggest that it isn’t all about fresh flesh. Swinging is about building up the atmosphere of warmth and belonging. Whether you are at a party with another couple or with another person for a threesome,…
The French school of mid twentieth-century philosophy drew particular attention to signs, signifiers, and the spectacle. Begun a few years after the widespread acceptance of Freudian theory the writings of Jacques Lacan (Écrits), philosophy and psychology melded in some very enlightening ways. Of course this movement was precipitated by the invention of the television which…
I had been wandering the liquor store for some minutes when the clerk approached and asked if I needed help. I considered blurting out loudly, “Should I try polyamory?”. “Hello,” I would say. “I’m wine shopping for dinner with my boyfriend and his two partners, whom I’ll be meeting for the first time. You wouldn’t…
Try sexy spanking if you feel bored in the bedroom? Have you had sex with your partner in every nook and cranny of your house? If you feel like your sex life needs some excitement, you might try sexy spanking? For some, a little playful spanking is enough to take the sexual tension and excitement…
Other than sexual wellbeing, there are few booming industries due to the Covid-19 pandemic. With the economic downturn looming and unemployment rates soaring, many of us have tightened our spending over the past few months. However, green shoots are appearing in one field: global sex technology. Lockdowns and social distancing have catalysed demand for erotica…
Not being able to orgasm, or finding it difficult, is something many women relate to. Women take longer to get off and quite frankly, some people just don’t know what to do to get them there. But the newest buzzphrase in women’s orgasms is something that can help us all: sexual edging. But what is…
What if your partner isn’t interested in sex with you? Or what if you are the one who wants to say no? What if you find yourself in a sexless marriage? According to Dr. David Schnarch, author of “Intimacy & Desire”, all couples have an “LDP” (low desire partner) and an “HDP” (high desire partner)….
Sex with a narcissist enlightened me. It’s far too easy to throw around labels these days for any little problem. For instance, we are quick to label men as narcissists when they show a little selfishness. The problem? Narcissism isn’t something to joke about. It’s not a word to call someone just because they don’t…
Since antiquity sex and sexuality have enjoyed a symbiotic relationship with poetry leading to sex and poetry as synonyms. Poetry falls into genres and categories defined by a range of schools, styles and forms. Looking into one of the more modern schools, the L-A-N-G-U-A-G-E school, a school which came to prominence at the close of…
Whether it’s the first time you ever have sex, the first time with someone new, or the millionth time, learning how to prepare for sex in the right way gets you in the best frame of mind. At the end of the day, sex is supposed to be enjoyed. Sure, it’s nice to be spontaneous…
Ethical non-monogamy vs. Polyamory. Polyamory is one form of practicing ethical non-monogamy, which is an umbrella term that encompasses many other types of relationships. Swinging, casual sex, open relationships, and polyamory are all forms of ethical non-monogamy, and there are many others. Polyamory refers to having multiple romantic partners at once, which not all ethically…
There are two ways of practicing non-monogamy: the nonconsensual kind, which is also known as cheating, and the consensual kind, which is known as consensual or ethical non-monogamy. This latter kind has risen in popularity dramatically in recent years. One 2017 study found 1 in 5 people has been in some form of ethically non-monogamous relationship before. Here’s what this type…
Polyamory refers to the desire for and the practice of engaging in consensual, non-monogamous romantic or sexual relationships with multiple partners. A recent paper by Hnatkovicova and Bianchi suggests there are eight motivations for polyamory. These include psychodynamic motivations, the satisfaction of needs not met in a monogamous romantic relationship, and the fulfillment of needs…
Before we talk about penis facts, let’s talk about our bodies for a minute. Human bodies – weird, right? They’re designed to do amazing things and yet despite that, sometimes they still malfunction. From the beating heart to the amazing human brain, we surprise ourselves every day and don’t even realize it. For instance, have…
In order to survive and thrive normally, humans need nourishment (food and drink), sleep, sexual release, and social interaction. Take away a certain measure of any one of these (Humans can and do manage without shelter.) and the result is a damaged or flawed human. Sexual behavior is revealed by parsing passes and pings. No…
Open Relationships: Various Thoughts by Insiders 1. “My girlfriend and I are non-monogamous. I wish people understood that non-monogamy isn’t something people do because they don’t ‘love their partner enough.’ We chose to have this aspect to our relationship because we’re both people who tend to have feelings for more than one person at a…
While it’s very exciting that you and your significant other have agreed that you want to start as open relationship newbies, it can also be pretty intimidating, and the stakes are high. That’s why we spoke to some experts about how to best go about opening your relationship up for the first time. For starters,…
The concept of having multiple sexual partners is nothing new to humanity—just ask the Ancient Greeks who enjoyed notoriously glorious sex lives and “had a desire for anyone and anything.” But when it comes to modern romance, navigating life beyond monogamy can be tricky. This is partly because monogamy in of itself is pretty straightforward:…
Non-monogamy is an umbrella term that covers a wide range of non-traditional relationship styles – all the way from “monogamish” to polyamory, relationship anarchy and everything in between. It isn’t superior to monogamy, or necessarily practiced by people who are more enlightened or well-rounded. It’s just a different way of approaching love and romance, that…
Michelle’s affair diary reveals her deepest feelings. Michelle spends most of her days getting her toddler ready for daycare, cooking and cleaning for her child and husband, and working from home. On special days, she opens her front door to a man she met on Ashley Madison, and they have sex. Michelle has secretly revealed…
1. Men make mistakes by not being honest about needs: “Be honest with yourself as to what you like and need, because men make mistakes. Was with a guy who NEEDED to finish by hand, but desperately didn’t want it to be that way. He would just keep going until it started to hurt me,…
Male orgasms are just as mysterious as female orgasms were to us not too long ago. Even now, we don’t know everything there is to know about the female orgasm, but we’ve come a long way. The same can be said of the male orgasm. So what is a male orgasm? What do male orgasms…
They say the key to a man’s heart is through his stomach but for women, it’s through Making a Woman Feel Special – making HER, the one, feel special. That’s really the main thing you have to remember with girls. If you want her to like you, make her feel unique and special to you…
So, you’re wondering how to make your guy cum fast. Though most of us wish we had all day to lay in bed with our lover, that’s typically not the case. Most of us are going to school or have jobs, and long days in bed end up being reserved for the weekends. What can…
For humans, lust is blind. Contrary to popular belief, psychopaths aren’t always dodgy-looking serial killers with slanted eyes. And because lust is blind they walk among us, charmingly undetected. Gone are the days of meeting a nice boy or girl at church. These days people meet under the most interesting circumstances leaving a wide gap…
Love triangles are complicated dating scenarios where there’s love in the air, but there are more than two people secretly involved. When love is mutual and shared between two people, everything is perfect, simple, and easy. BUT …. Have you ever been in love with someone who’s already in love with someone else? Or are…
Whenever I hear someone openly admit they are in an open relationship or marriage, they are met with accusations of cheating or not being in a “real” relationship. Their relationships are not taken seriously, and sometimes even laughed or scoffed at. But actually, open and poly relationships can be some of the healthiest and most…
Alfred Kinsey’s sexual scale, his imprint on the world of sexuality, has — and continues to — inspire criticism, fascination, even outrage. It’s a captivating legacy for a man who spent the first half of his career studying the gall wasp. Depending whom you ask, Kinsey — the creator of the Kinsey Scale of sexual…
Infidelity in romantic relationships is surprisingly common as is hiding the affair. Within the last year alone, 2-4% of partners in highly-committed relationships had an affair, and across the lifetime, about a quarter of marriages include infidelity (as discussed in Fincham & May, 2017). Would you know if your partner was unfaithful? Unfaithful partners take…
Those who prefer casual anonymous sex to repeated-partner play have likely, at some point in their sexual journey, contended with the wrath of slut-shaming culture. But for some, the preference for emotion-free sex is more than a celebration of sexuality and bodily autonomy; it’s a sexual orientation. Behold: fraysexuality. “’Fraysexual’ is a term that describes…
Girls tribbing is the new 21st century phrase meaning tribadism. Ah yes, the ancient art of tribadism: girls scissoring and girls tribbing (rubbing their genitals together). Okay, it’s not an ancient art, we don’t know when it was invented, but it’s definitely not a myth. Understanding how to scissor a girl is essential to girl-on-girl…
Ghislaine Maxwell’s demise is fast approaching. Her multiple sex trafficking convictions translate into meaning that too many powerful parties need her gone. Even a partial list of those desiring that she leave the planet ASAP reads as compelling and frightening: Donald J. Trump, Bill & Hillary Clinton, Bill Gates, Rudy Giuliani, Alan Dershowitz, and Queen…
Dictionary Definition of gestalt: an organized whole that is perceived as more than the sum of its parts. Gestalt reveals the mind. Though the dictionary definition may confuse about how this works with sexual tension this approach will become crystal clear if we look to some examples. Two people are on a first date, say,…
