Blog posts dealing with theory
On average, women are less interested in sex than men. This is a consistent finding in psychology. Women express lower sexual desire, want fewer lifetime sex partners, and are less open to casual sex compared to men. The reason for this gender difference in sexuality constitutes one of the great debates in psychology. Nature Versus…
When you hear “pillow princess” you might be thinking that this girl is living a life of luxury. And you’re right. If you’re a pillow princess, it’s a cushy ride. However, it’s also likely that no one wants to have sex with you. So what, exactly, is a pillow princess? If you think a pillow…
Waiting for sex is a big deal for some, but not so much so for others. And you are 100% entitled to your opinions and feelings. As long as you’re being safe, you do you. Many people wonder how long you should be waiting for sex and it’s a long-debated subject. The truth? It’s a…
My virgin confession hurts. I’m A 32-Year-Old Female Virgin (but not by choice). How I ended up in this condition – alone. Missing out. A 32-year-old virgin. By accident. No grand pacts with deities were made. No overly sentimental illusions of saving myself for that one special person who would sweep me off my feet…
People flinch in fear whenever they hear about vaginal fisting. Most consider it controversial, while some even see it as a cultural taboo. The mere sound of the word “fisting” will probably make the most prude of us scream something like, “WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU WANT ANYBODY TO PUT THEIR WHOLE HAND IN YOU?”…
People stay in an unhappy marriage for a lot of reasons. You may be in one yourself. But when an unhappy marriage leads to cheating and infidelity, it’s time to lift the veil of denial and take a good hard look at what’s going on. It’s important to understand why people cheat before learning how…
Five types of romantic relationships serve to categorize most romantic unions. When you look back at your relationship history, you may have what feels like a wide range of different experiences. Some romances are short. Some are boring. Some are defined by strong attraction and big conflicts. Some are warm and stable. All of these…
You might have heard the saying “happy wife, happy life,” but it’s actually far more than that. For sure, if the lady in your life is happy, everything is easier. But, you need to make sure that your needs are also being met. Relationships are two-way deals and without both partners being happy with what’s…
No-fail tips for how to attract a guy A guy may like a girl for different reasons. But when it comes to physical or sexual attraction at first sight, her appearance and behavior matter more than anything else. So if you want to attract a guy and make him desire you, you just need to…
Welcome to the reality of infidelity. A recently published study in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior reveals that individuals who engage in extramarital affairs often find these affairs highly fulfilling and experience little guilt. Furthermore, they believe that their infidelity has not negatively impacted their otherwise healthy marriages, according to the study. The extensive…
Here’s why the brain is the most powerful sex organ. Chemicals and your brain One of the last things you’re thinking about during sex is probably chemicals and your brain—but they’re more involved than you think. Studies and MRIs suggest there are many remote areas of the brain that are active before, during, and after…
Having an affair with a married man is full of highs and lows, agony and ecstasy, and some days you may wonder if it’s all worth it. If you are reading this article because a married man ghosted you, it can feel devastating. And now here you are, in the deepest of lows, wondering what…
The female orgasm feels amazing. We all know that. Orgasms are the pinnacle of sensation if you’re lucky enough to have one. That much we also know. But, why do orgasms feel so good? What is it about them that makes our whole body feel full of bliss and pleasure? It seems pretty simple to…
Many women find sex to be the deepest form of love and connection, and many women are very sexually oriented. While his orgasm may be quicker, hers is often more powerful and her incredible capacity for pleasure could include multiple orgasms. But the ways that women experience and express their sexuality are often very different…
Sex is an ever-changing subject and the cuckold fantasy is big right now. It seems that every month there’s a new term we have to learn the meaning of! This can only be a good thing, because it means we’re all becoming more open and adventurous when it comes to exploring our kinks and fantasies….
“What’s the difference between a bar and the clitoris? Most men have no trouble finding a bar.” In the world of humour, the clitoris remains a mystery: supposedly small, and so inevitably difficult to locate. “Which dinosaur will never be discovered? The Clitaurus.” It sometimes seems medical science has been far more interested in the…
Maybe you’re a spitter who wants to transition to the swallowing club, or maybe you just want to learn how to do it right, well, this is how to swallow cum without gagging or feeling like throwing up. My very first experience with swallowing cum I don’t want to scare you, but I just want…
Perhaps your sex life is lacking spontaneous sex. Sex is great, we can all agree with that. And if you don’t, then you’re not having the right kind of sex. While planning your sex life may be the most realistic option for many of you out there, it’s even better when it’s spontaneous sex. When…
Although the majority of swinging will end up involving lovemaking and getting frisky with each other’s partners, some swinging guidelines suggest that it isn’t all about fresh flesh. Swinging is about building up the atmosphere of warmth and belonging. Whether you are at a party with another couple or with another person for a threesome,…
The French school of mid twentieth-century philosophy drew particular attention to signs, signifiers, and the spectacle. Begun a few years after the widespread acceptance of Freudian theory the writings of Jacques Lacan (Écrits), philosophy and psychology melded in some very enlightening ways. Of course this movement was precipitated by the invention of the television which…
I had been wandering the liquor store for some minutes when the clerk approached and asked if I needed help. I considered blurting out loudly, “Should I try polyamory?”. “Hello,” I would say. “I’m wine shopping for dinner with my boyfriend and his two partners, whom I’ll be meeting for the first time. You wouldn’t…
As the podcast She Wants More suggests, affairs are in the air these days. Or so it seems to Jo Piazza, who feels like she’s been hearing more and more female friends opening up about their extramarital adventures in everyday conversation. “I mean, I’m hearing about it at school drop-offs and on the playground,” she…
Try sexy spanking if you feel bored in the bedroom? Have you had sex with your partner in every nook and cranny of your house? If you feel like your sex life needs some excitement, you might try sexy spanking? For some, a little playful spanking is enough to take the sexual tension and excitement…
Other than sexual wellbeing, there are few booming industries due to the Covid-19 pandemic. With the economic downturn looming and unemployment rates soaring, many of us have tightened our spending over the past few months. However, green shoots are appearing in one field: global sex technology. Lockdowns and social distancing have catalysed demand for erotica…
A recent sexual relationship study of 2,000 men and women, conducted by the UK dating website Illicit Encounters, looked at the top 10 things that men and women say they enjoy most about sex. It found that women listed experiencing greater bonding with their partner, reduced stress, and increased self-confidence. In contrast, men said what…
Not being able to orgasm, or finding it difficult, is something many women relate to. Women take longer to get off and quite frankly, some people just don’t know what to do to get them there. But the newest buzzphrase in women’s orgasms is something that can help us all: sexual edging. But what is…
What if your partner isn’t interested in sex with you? Or what if you are the one who wants to say no? What if you find yourself in a sexless marriage? According to Dr. David Schnarch, author of “Intimacy & Desire”, all couples have an “LDP” (low desire partner) and an “HDP” (high desire partner)….
Sex with a narcissist enlightened me. It’s far too easy to throw around labels these days for any little problem. For instance, we are quick to label men as narcissists when they show a little selfishness. The problem? Narcissism isn’t something to joke about. It’s not a word to call someone just because they don’t…
Are you guilty of using sex as a weapon? You might not think so or even admit it. But withholding sex as a weapon to make your partner do something is actually a mean manipulation tactic, and it’s pretty toxic. Have you ever used sex to get your partner to do the dishes, clean the…
Since antiquity sex and sexuality have enjoyed a symbiotic relationship with poetry leading to sex and poetry as synonyms. Poetry falls into genres and categories defined by a range of schools, styles and forms. Looking into one of the more modern schools, the L-A-N-G-U-A-G-E school, a school which came to prominence at the close of…
In recent years, the world of kink lifestyles and subcultures has gained increasing attention – especially pup play. Kink is a general term that includes various expressions of unconventional or non-traditional sexual desires. This encompasses a wide array of practices, including power dynamics, intense sensations/stimuli, role-playing and more. One such form of role-play that is…
Whether it’s the first time you ever have sex, the first time with someone new, or the millionth time, learning how to prepare for sex in the right way gets you in the best frame of mind. At the end of the day, sex is supposed to be enjoyed. Sure, it’s nice to be spontaneous…
Ethical non-monogamy vs. Polyamory. Polyamory is one form of practicing ethical non-monogamy, which is an umbrella term that encompasses many other types of relationships. Swinging, casual sex, open relationships, and polyamory are all forms of ethical non-monogamy, and there are many others. Polyamory refers to having multiple romantic partners at once, which not all ethically…
There are two ways of practicing non-monogamy: the nonconsensual kind, which is also known as cheating, and the consensual kind, which is known as consensual or ethical non-monogamy. This latter kind has risen in popularity dramatically in recent years. One 2017 study found 1 in 5 people has been in some form of ethically non-monogamous relationship before. Here’s what this type…
Polyamory refers to the desire for and the practice of engaging in consensual, non-monogamous romantic or sexual relationships with multiple partners. A recent paper by Hnatkovicova and Bianchi suggests there are eight motivations for polyamory. These include psychodynamic motivations, the satisfaction of needs not met in a monogamous romantic relationship, and the fulfillment of needs…
Before we talk about penis facts, let’s talk about our bodies for a minute. Human bodies – weird, right? They’re designed to do amazing things and yet despite that, sometimes they still malfunction. From the beating heart to the amazing human brain, we surprise ourselves every day and don’t even realize it. For instance, have…
In order to survive and thrive normally, humans need nourishment (food and drink), sleep, sexual release, and social interaction. Take away a certain measure of any one of these (Humans can and do manage without shelter.) and the result is a damaged or flawed human. Sexual behavior is revealed by parsing passes and pings. No…
Open Relationships: Various Thoughts by Insiders 1. “My girlfriend and I are non-monogamous. I wish people understood that non-monogamy isn’t something people do because they don’t ‘love their partner enough.’ We chose to have this aspect to our relationship because we’re both people who tend to have feelings for more than one person at a…
While it’s very exciting that you and your significant other have agreed that you want to start as open relationship newbies, it can also be pretty intimidating, and the stakes are high. That’s why we spoke to some experts about how to best go about opening your relationship up for the first time. For starters,…
Five open marriages myths that you must stop believing: 1. Open marriages are all about intimacy More than anything, open marriages are about honesty and communication. Many polyamorous couples, like blogger Jenny Block and her husband, struggled more with secret affairs than with extramarital activity itself. In her article “Open Marriage Is Not A Fad,”…
In our open marriage my husband and I have been together for 12 years. After we met in college and became fast friends, our relationship grew quickly and easily. I trusted him implicitly; he was open, cared deeply about doing the right thing, and listened to me when I expressed my thoughts and feelings. We…
The concept of having multiple sexual partners is nothing new to humanity—just ask the Ancient Greeks who enjoyed notoriously glorious sex lives and “had a desire for anyone and anything.” But when it comes to modern romance, navigating life beyond monogamy can be tricky. This is partly because monogamy in of itself is pretty straightforward:…
Non-monogamy is an umbrella term that covers a wide range of non-traditional relationship styles – all the way from “monogamish” to polyamory, relationship anarchy and everything in between. It isn’t superior to monogamy, or necessarily practiced by people who are more enlightened or well-rounded. It’s just a different way of approaching love and romance, that…
Michelle’s affair diary reveals her deepest feelings. Michelle spends most of her days getting her toddler ready for daycare, cooking and cleaning for her child and husband, and working from home. On special days, she opens her front door to a man she met on Ashley Madison, and they have sex. Michelle has secretly revealed…
1. Men make mistakes by not being honest about needs: “Be honest with yourself as to what you like and need, because men make mistakes. Was with a guy who NEEDED to finish by hand, but desperately didn’t want it to be that way. He would just keep going until it started to hurt me,…
Male orgasms are just as mysterious as female orgasms were to us not too long ago. Even now, we don’t know everything there is to know about the female orgasm, but we’ve come a long way. The same can be said of the male orgasm. So what is a male orgasm? What do male orgasms…
They say the key to a man’s heart is through his stomach but for women, it’s through Making a Woman Feel Special – making HER, the one, feel special. That’s really the main thing you have to remember with girls. If you want her to like you, make her feel unique and special to you…
So, you’re wondering how to make your guy cum fast. Though most of us wish we had all day to lay in bed with our lover, that’s typically not the case. Most of us are going to school or have jobs, and long days in bed end up being reserved for the weekends. What can…
