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Polyamory refers to the desire for and the practice of engaging in consensual, non-monogamous romantic or sexual relationships with multiple partners. A recent paper by Hnatkovicova and Bianchi suggests there are eight motivations for polyamory. These include psychodynamic motivations, the satisfaction of needs not met in a monogamous romantic relationship, and the fulfillment of needs…
Before we talk about penis facts, let’s talk about our bodies for a minute. Human bodies – weird, right? They’re designed to do amazing things and yet despite that, sometimes they still malfunction. From the beating heart to the amazing human brain, we surprise ourselves every day and don’t even realize it. For instance, have…
In order to survive and thrive normally, humans need nourishment (food and drink), sleep, sexual release, and social interaction. Take away a certain measure of any one of these (Humans can and do manage without shelter.) and the result is a damaged or flawed human. Sexual behavior is revealed by parsing passes and pings. No…
You’d be forgiven for thinking everyone was using pandemic sex toys to masturbate more during the pandemic. Adult content subscription service OnlyFans went mainstream, and celebrities such as Gwyneth Paltrow, Dakota Johnson, Lily Allen and Cara Delevingne made stigma-breaking moves when they released their own sex toys (Goop) or partnered with existing companies (Maude, Womanizer…
A California woman has acquired a new “superpower” by learning to orgasm “without touch.” Catalina Lawsin, 46, made the raunchy revelation in an interview with South West News Service last week, saying practicing tantra several times a week has helped her harness the contactless kink. The sex therapist based in tony Santa Monica claimed climaxes…
Oral sex may be the biggest factor in the rise of throat cancer in the United States. Dr. Hisham Mehanna — a professor at the Institute of Cancer and Genomic Sciences at the University of Birmingham — said that there has been a “rapid increase” in oropharyngeal cancer, a type of throat cancer, in the…
Open Relationships: Various Thoughts by Insiders 1. “My girlfriend and I are non-monogamous. I wish people understood that non-monogamy isn’t something people do because they don’t ‘love their partner enough.’ We chose to have this aspect to our relationship because we’re both people who tend to have feelings for more than one person at a…
While it’s very exciting that you and your significant other have agreed that you want to start as open relationship newbies, it can also be pretty intimidating, and the stakes are high. That’s why we spoke to some experts about how to best go about opening your relationship up for the first time. For starters,…
Five open marriages myths that you must stop believing: 1. Open marriages are all about intimacy More than anything, open marriages are about honesty and communication. Many polyamorous couples, like blogger Jenny Block and her husband, struggled more with secret affairs than with extramarital activity itself. In her article “Open Marriage Is Not A Fad,”…
The concept of having multiple sexual partners is nothing new to humanity—just ask the Ancient Greeks who enjoyed notoriously glorious sex lives and “had a desire for anyone and anything.” But when it comes to modern romance, navigating life beyond monogamy can be tricky. This is partly because monogamy in of itself is pretty straightforward:…
Non-monogamy is an umbrella term that covers a wide range of non-traditional relationship styles – all the way from “monogamish” to polyamory, relationship anarchy and everything in between. It isn’t superior to monogamy, or necessarily practiced by people who are more enlightened or well-rounded. It’s just a different way of approaching love and romance, that…
Recently my wife became polyamorous. My wife and I have been married for 15 years, raising two kids together for 12. We’ve had the usual challenges with boredom and intimacy over the years, but nothing I would call out of the ordinary. Then, about a year ago, my wife confided that she’d been having an…
Was I wrong to use my former affair partner as a yardstick? At the time of this post, I’ve been on 57 first dates. Some of the guys I met for second and third dates. Some I dated for several months. With a few, we parted as friends, but over time the relationships dwindled. Needless…
Multiple sex partners certainly do provide exposure to a variety of desires and passions. The enjoyment of physical behaviors and sexual practices is unique to every individual. What works for others might not work for you, what stimulates others might become a painful experience, and people tend to learn it as they grow. It is…
1. Men make mistakes by not being honest about needs: “Be honest with yourself as to what you like and need, because men make mistakes. Was with a guy who NEEDED to finish by hand, but desperately didn’t want it to be that way. He would just keep going until it started to hurt me,…
Male orgasms are just as mysterious as female orgasms were to us not too long ago. Even now, we don’t know everything there is to know about the female orgasm, but we’ve come a long way. The same can be said of the male orgasm. So what is a male orgasm? What do male orgasms…
They say the key to a man’s heart is through his stomach but for women, it’s through Making a Woman Feel Special – making HER, the one, feel special. That’s really the main thing you have to remember with girls. If you want her to like you, make her feel unique and special to you…
So, you’re wondering how to make your guy cum fast. Though most of us wish we had all day to lay in bed with our lover, that’s typically not the case. Most of us are going to school or have jobs, and long days in bed end up being reserved for the weekends. What can…
If you want to know how to make women orgasm fast during sex, this might be the most important article you ever read. You’re about to learn the best sex positions to make female orgasms come faster than you probably ever thought possible. Why does it take so long for some women to have an…
For humans, lust is blind. Contrary to popular belief, psychopaths aren’t always dodgy-looking serial killers with slanted eyes. And because lust is blind they walk among us, charmingly undetected. Gone are the days of meeting a nice boy or girl at church. These days people meet under the most interesting circumstances leaving a wide gap…
What’s the biggest difference between love and lust? Or is there any difference at all? In a corny kind of way, love is about the craving of the heart, while lust is a craving of the loins. But what’s the real deal behind love, relationships and promiscuity?A relationship always seems perfect until lust or love…
Love triangles are complicated dating scenarios where there’s love in the air, but there are more than two people secretly involved. When love is mutual and shared between two people, everything is perfect, simple, and easy. BUT …. Have you ever been in love with someone who’s already in love with someone else? Or are…
Whenever I hear someone openly admit they are in an open relationship or marriage, they are met with accusations of cheating or not being in a “real” relationship. Their relationships are not taken seriously, and sometimes even laughed or scoffed at. But actually, open and poly relationships can be some of the healthiest and most…
Kinky women like experiencing new and wild things in bed that normal people may think are just too much out of their comfort zone to try. That said, kinky sex can range from mild to extreme, and everything in between. Unexpected qualities kinky women will surprise you with Now, some may think that kinky ladies…
If you’re a guy who has no idea what to do with kinky girls and you’ve just met one you really like, don’t worry. We have some ideas to help you get introduced into the realm of kinkiness, so you can explore and enjoy together. 1. With a kinky girl use restraints If you want…
The marriage between twenty-nine year old social influencer Julia Zelg and Eileen de Freest (sixty-six) is going through challenges. Julia admitted that after four years of marriage the two have run into differences caused by the thirty-seven year age gap. The development has forced them to agree to start dating independent partners outside their relationship…
How many sexual partners are too many? Ever found yourself musing over the average number of sexual partners or scratching your head at the term “average body count”? Rest assured, you’re not the only one curious about this complex aspect of relationships. It’s like attempting to solve the most complex jigsaw puzzle without the cover…
Infidelity in romantic relationships is surprisingly common as is hiding the affair. Within the last year alone, 2-4% of partners in highly-committed relationships had an affair, and across the lifetime, about a quarter of marriages include infidelity (as discussed in Fincham & May, 2017). Would you know if your partner was unfaithful? Unfaithful partners take…
A ‘happily married’ dad in his 30s says having regular affairs has been the secret to his successful relationship – and he’s been doing so for the past seven years. Nate has had five affairs since tying the knot with his wife because his sex life at home is ‘too vanilla’ and he’s sick of…
Those who prefer casual anonymous sex to repeated-partner play have likely, at some point in their sexual journey, contended with the wrath of slut-shaming culture. But for some, the preference for emotion-free sex is more than a celebration of sexuality and bodily autonomy; it’s a sexual orientation. Behold: fraysexuality. “’Fraysexual’ is a term that describes…
Have you ever fantasized about having a threesome? Having good sex with one person is hard enough (no pun intended), but adding a third person into the mix can double the pleasure or double the pressure. So how do you know if having a threesome is right for you? Threesomes may be a bucket list…
What can make two healthy twenty-somethings turn to a sex therapist because, despite their desire, they have not had sex in months? What strange cosmic force impedes them from wearing out their mattresses? The answer is probably in the mind: in mistaken beliefs and ideologies that become chastity belts. Religions have demonized sex, pleasure and…
Girls tribbing is the new 21st century phrase meaning tribadism. Ah yes, the ancient art of tribadism: girls scissoring and girls tribbing (rubbing their genitals together). Okay, it’s not an ancient art, we don’t know when it was invented, but it’s definitely not a myth. Understanding how to scissor a girl is essential to girl-on-girl…
One of the first instances of ghosting I can recall took place in the early 2010s. A friend had gone on a few great dates with a boy she met on Tinder, after which they exchanged a steady stream of communication. Soon, her messages were met with long silences, “yep,” or “lol.” We speculated on…
Picture the scene – you’ve been on a few dates with a guy and everything is great. You really like him and you think he likes you too. But, nothing else is happening besides flirting. You want him to kiss you but he doesn’t seem to be able to pluck up the courage to do…
Let’s all get frisky for Christmas. The temperature has dropped and Mariah Carey songs are appearing with alarming frequency. It’s safe to say that the holiday season has arrived. If you’re considering getting a last minute gift for someone special, ‘tis the season to get frisky. I said it before and I’ll say it again:…
Dictionary Definition of gestalt: an organized whole that is perceived as more than the sum of its parts. Gestalt reveals the mind. Though the dictionary definition may confuse about how this works with sexual tension this approach will become crystal clear if we look to some examples. Two people are on a first date, say,…
Some people have a fear that’s been present as long as they can remember, from childhood onwards. Yet for some, a fear can develop over time, or perhaps simply crash into life and make itself very well known. Fears can be irrational, reasonable, or they can be things that we don’t really understand but know…
The concept of friends with benefits entails two people who wish to engage in a sexual relationship without the limitations of being committed to each other. Those two people do not need to perform the necessary nuances related to being boyfriend and girlfriend or otherwise. But, how do you find and get a friend with…
Many people like having freaky sex. Getting crazy and letting your wild side out is what sex is for after all. We are primal beings! We need to acknowledge that side of our human nature from time to time and experience all the kinky sex we can. Now, that being said, there are many people…
Sex toys and food can improve sex. For some it’s Marvin Gaye or an episode of Outlander… what gets you going in the bedroom is highly individualized. For me it’s simply a well-functioning penis. But did you know that there are certain foods that may boost your sex life? It’s true—what you eat for dinner…
Considering female sex drive, most who are reading this are probably thinking that a high libido is something that only applies to men. However, women can have a high sex drive, too. Actually, women notice when they have a higher sex drive more often than men do because people generally think guys are supposed to…
Female orgasms are a confusing beast. Some women have never had one, other women have them all the time. There are countless women that fall into the category in-between and have one sometimes but have to really focus to try and make it happen regularly. But, did you know that there are different types of…
Everyone knows how important orgasms are for both men and women. When having sex with someone, you want them to orgasm. You want them to have the best sexual experience with you – it’s normal. But sometimes, orgasms aren’t that easy for women to achieve. A good way to encourage the big O to come…
Several ethical non-monogamy perspectives. Ian Jenkins, 45, faced death threats after coming out as gay while at university in Virginia. At that time, he could hardly foresee a day when he could live as an openly gay man with one partner, let alone two. But today, he shares a home in San Diego with his…
Differences in sexual desire can be highly problematic. Romantic relationships are distinguished from all others in that they are fundamentally sexual in nature. Furthermore, the vast majority of people expect their intimate relationship to be sexually exclusive. And yet, people differ widely in terms of how much sex they want, so it’s not surprising that…
Do dating apps disappoint? When Treena Orchard, author and associate professor at Western University in London, Ontario started using online dating apps in her 40s, she noticed something very peculiar. Her experiences – the endless back and forth messaging, persistent sexual harassment, pushy requests for nudes and routine ghosting – were all eerily similar to…
There’s a new sexual term every day for acts we’ve been indulging in for ages! You may have heard of the term, cuckquean, but do you know what it means? You probably knew that a cuckold was a man with a wife who has sex with other men, but there’s a female equivalent too –…
