Dating Apps Disappoint
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Dating Apps Disappoint

Do dating apps disappoint? When Treena Orchard, author and associate professor at Western University in London, Ontario started using online dating apps in her 40s, she noticed something very peculiar. Her experiences – the endless back and forth messaging, persistent sexual harassment, pushy requests for nudes and routine ghosting – were all eerily similar to…

Some Swinging Guidelines
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Some Swinging Guidelines

Although the majority of swinging will end up involving lovemaking and getting frisky with each other’s partners, some swinging guidelines suggest that it isn’t all about fresh flesh. Swinging is about building up the atmosphere of warmth and belonging. Whether you are at a party with another couple or with another person for a threesome,…

Having Casual Anonymous Sex
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Having Casual Anonymous Sex

Those who prefer casual anonymous sex to repeated-partner play have likely, at some point in their sexual journey, contended with the wrath of slut-shaming culture. But for some, the preference for emotion-free sex is more than a celebration of sexuality and bodily autonomy; it’s a sexual orientation. Behold: fraysexuality. “’Fraysexual’ is a term that describes…

Lessons from Open Relationship
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Lessons from Open Relationship

Whenever I hear someone openly admit they are in an open relationship or marriage, they are met with accusations of cheating or not being in a “real” relationship. Their relationships are not taken seriously, and sometimes even laughed or scoffed at.   But actually, open and poly relationships can be some of the healthiest and most…

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Scandal at the University of South Florida

Things started to go downhill fast at the University of South Florida when, after a vigorous bout of sex, Dr. Marc Santos, @Oisin16, gave his student, Stephanie Phillips, @Steph_Smash, the nickname “Goldie.” The year was 2015. I was in my first year of the English MA program at the University of South Florida @USouthFlorida. Santos…

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Practicing Ethical Non-Monogamy (2)

Ethical non-monogamy vs. Polyamory. Polyamory is one form of practicing ethical non-monogamy, which is an umbrella term that encompasses many other types of relationships. Swinging, casual sex, open relationships, and polyamory are all forms of ethical non-monogamy, and there are many others. Polyamory refers to having multiple romantic partners at once, which not all ethically…

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Practicing Ethical Non-Monogamy (1)

There are two ways of practicing non-monogamy: the nonconsensual kind, which is also known as cheating, and the consensual kind, which is known as consensual or ethical non-monogamy. This latter kind has risen in popularity dramatically in recent years. One 2017 study found 1 in 5 people has been in some form of ethically non-monogamous relationship before. Here’s what this type…

Parsing “Passes” and “Pings”
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Parsing “Passes” and “Pings”

In order to survive and thrive normally, humans need nourishment (food and drink), sleep, sexual release, and social interaction. Take away a certain measure of any one of these (Humans can and do manage without shelter.) and the result is a damaged or flawed human. Sexual behavior is revealed by parsing passes and pings. No…